So dating 101 is a series I’m starting on my blog about the dos and don’ts of dating and what is expected. I’m single and even though I don’t like dating, I’m open to it. Right now I’m simply mingling and meeting people and deciding whether there is someone I would date. I’ve met a few new people but I’m undecided whether I want to date any of them. I’m still holding out for that one person who sparks my interest enough.
So what is dating? People have different perceptions of what dating is. I feel like dating involves spending time with someone and getting to know that person without any commitments and expectations. During this time you can decide what you want from this person and whether there can be anything more. Everyone doesn’t see dating that way because my view of dating to one person is a friendship to another.
One of the first things about dating that I’ve learned is that you must…..
1. Have no expectations- When you start dating and have expectations for how things should be or what you want then you will more than likely be disappointed. (Not having expectations doesn’t mean not having standards.) Don’t look at dating as a lifelong commitment but as the ride there so enjoy the ride while you’re on it. If it’s not the ride for you get off and find another that’s more enjoyable.
2. Take your time- Don’t rush into anything that you’re not ready for. Sure there are certain expectations people have for dating but like I said early have no expectations. Do what’s right for you and what feels right. If you want to take things slow make sure that person understands that. And that leads me to my next point….
3. Date on common grounds- Make sure you both have an understanding of what dating is to you. This is important in making sure that there aren’t any miscommunications and that one person isn’t expecting more while the other is expecting less. There must be a common understanding of what you want from each other at that time to avoid any confusion later.
Dating is only a game if you play it as one.
Life’s Lesson: There’s plenty of fish in the sea, so if the one you catch isn’t good enough, then throw him back and reel in another. Love is about taking chances and you’ll never find it unless you’re willing to take a chance.
Stay tune….there’s more to come…..